May 4th - Basking
Feeling smoother today. Less ripples in my pool.
I wrote back to the nice man who says he is writing an article for Hustler in regards to hair fetish and wigs and things.. and he says he'll mention the site.. so we'll see. I'm a trusting soul.
Here, I'll let you all read a copy of my mail to him today...
I'm happy to give you the female perspective on fetish in regards to wigs and hairstyles. From the point of view of someone who is wearing the wigs, or shaving my head, or dying my hair radical colors, or anything else involving pushing the limits around hair style.
For me, a big part of the thrill comes through radical transformation, and the psychology surrounding radical transformation. Taking myself as a woman, and having one particular look and then altering that completely.
Many men who don't have a hair fetish can relate to the transformation fantasy in more traditional form... An example would be the fantasy around the librarian (or school teacher, or business woman) with her hair up and formal, who takes off her glasses, lets down her bound tresses, and reveals the sexy lingerie beneath the restrictive clothing.
Well hair fetish plays with that transformation, yet on deeper and more varied levels. What happens when instead of letting her hair down, you strip her hair off? Shave her bald to the skin? Rob her of her tresses? What happens when she goes from a short boyish cut to a luxurious mane of golden curls? When she slips on a retro wig and takes you back to the 1950's? or the turn of the century?
Wig play and head shaving, hair cutting, is also often tied into role play. Just like the demure librarian becomes the passionate vixen when she shakes out her mane. The woman with traditional hair becomes the claimed love slave when her hair is taken from her, or becomes the Victorian coquette in her powdered pompadour, or becomes Tarzan's Jane when her hip length black wig clings to her backside.
Men are visual, hair is central in the visual identity of a woman, hair is sensual, silky, symbolic, powerful. Playing with role and identity through visually transforming yourself is an empowering, fun, erotic process. Re-creating yourself over and over, exploring different aspects of self and sexuality, with a playful approach... that's what hair and wig fetish is for me. Good clean fun.
So I kept it short and simple, I can always take more and more and more.. about it, or just about anything for that matter. So I figure stick to the basics, and if he wants more, I can build from there.
Also got beautiful e-mail today from someone in response to yesterdays journal entry, with lots of great stuff to say, you know who you are.. so thank you angel. Sometimes people write me beautiful things, I should start writing them back and asking permission to share their letters with you. Sometimes the dialogue I have with people can be interesting.
Pretty happy day today...
Of course it doesn't hurt that my barbie sun has been shining in my direction more, always makes a difference for me. Every moment, every touch, every glance, every smile, every compliment, every loving word, any of those little precious gifts she gives me, when she gives them, wakes my spirit, breathes life to me. Too in love... that's the problem... maintaining my composure, need, greed, when I'm not basking in the glow of her fire. Have to learn, how not to die, when she doesn't hold me in her mind's eye...
Too bound.
XO
Katt