Red Flags…

Some people are completely incapable of spotting them in people they would like to believe better of. I’m often like that myself… so I can’t fault people for it. I see stuff, and like to hope it’s indicitave of a best case scenario than worst. I give people the benefit of the doubt. Unfortunately. When people who are attractive, charismatic, and have power, are the danger, it is even more likely we really want to give people the benefit of the doubt, and think the best of them.

This is not a bad thing.. it’s a wonderful optimistic beautiful thing. Unfortunately it usually means we don’t get the ‘red flags’ till we’re struck over the head with the flag pole or are personally ’shafted’ or have someone close to us hurt.

I was amazed with what George Bush got away with… I’m amazed what others get away with.

Once you get well and thoroughly beat about the head by someone with a flag pole, and many many people you care for have been seriously shafted… it becomes hard not to see the red flags, once you’ve clued in. So that it becomes hard to remember that at one point you didn’t see it yourself.

As much as you want to try to keep people out of swinging and impaling range… you can’t. If they *really* don’t want to see those red flags, even if they are there… people will make excuses for those behaviours. They will make justifications and rationalizations. It continues. People expect monsters to look and act like monsters all the time.  They usually get married, have kids, have important meaningful jobs, are a vibrant part of their community, often active in their church and or charitable organizations.  They usually look like really great people, and do lots of great things! So when they do something … not so great… even something really bad… people who trust them around them, just CANNOT possibly believe it. Even with evidence. Even with victims lining up with statements.

I wonder how much of it is just our intense desire to want to believe things are `good`…

The frightening thing is not so much even what is out there being waved around… The visibly public stuff is disgusting enough. Sometimes I wish I had so much less information available to me. Then other times, I`m grateful for my sources.  Better to know.. really.

I just hope the lessons get learned without too much damage.

Take care out there in the big world people… be cautious. Love and trust is a wonderful thing, but be careful, be careful where you put your heart, your soul, your personal information, your secrets, your trust, your money, your time, your energy and efforts. Give and trust and love and support… yes!  Just look, and look hard, before any leaps.

Always always be careful with personal information, particularly financial information, but any information that could be used against you.

Live in Love…

be safe!

Sociopath VS Psychopath – MUST READ- PLEASE CLICK THIS LINK!

Warning signs of unsafe group leaders – MUST READ – PLEASE CLICK THIS LINK TOO!

If you suspect one of these people in your life, avoidance, is the recommended approach. Not confrontation of any kind. When you cannot avoid them, avoid angering them or getting on their bad side.  These are people that do not like to be judged, rage easily, hold a grudge, are very intelligent, often very powerful, and they have no conscience. You cannot ‘win’ against them. Everyone loses. They will be able to hide their nature most of the time, but their characteristics.. see above link, will peek out from time to time. DO NOT IGNORE THESE RED FLAGS WHEN YOU SEE THEM!