Comments on: I’m so not a fighter, just a lover. http://www.thepillowbook.com/2007/08/14/im-so-not-a-fighter-just-a-lover/ Wed, 8 Oct 2008 11:19:17 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.5.1 By: Opus http://www.thepillowbook.com/2007/08/14/im-so-not-a-fighter-just-a-lover/#comment-2131 Opus Fri, 24 Aug 2007 18:49:28 +0000 http://www.thepillowbook.com/?p=278#comment-2131 One of my former writing teachers told me something that her dear ole' momma used to say: "If you're not on someone's shit list, you're no damn good." There are more of us who think you are a Woman of merit, beauty and compassion than not. All things come at a price--even a loving spirit. xo Yer Nayber One of my former writing teachers told me something that her dear ole’ momma used to say:

“If you’re not on someone’s shit list, you’re no damn good.”

There are more of us who think you are a Woman of merit, beauty and compassion than not. All things come at a price–even a loving spirit.

xo Yer Nayber

]]> By: Fae http://www.thepillowbook.com/2007/08/14/im-so-not-a-fighter-just-a-lover/#comment-2122 Fae Sun, 19 Aug 2007 09:28:48 +0000 http://www.thepillowbook.com/?p=278#comment-2122 It is through things like this that one discovers their true friends. And those people aren't going to leave you just because you make a decision for your own wellbeing. You're an insightful person and I'm sure the right choice will come to you. And no matter what you decide, you will have a full group of supporters. If moving further out does become neccesary, nothing motivates people to helping with such things better than pizza and beer(or other appropriate liquor) :) Take care of yourself pretty lady and don't forget that you're alot stronger than you give yourself credit for. It is through things like this that one discovers their true friends. And those people aren’t going to leave you just because you make a decision for your own wellbeing. You’re an insightful person and I’m sure the right choice will come to you. And no matter what you decide, you will have a full group of supporters. If moving further out does become neccesary, nothing motivates people to helping with such things better than pizza and beer(or other appropriate liquor) :)
Take care of yourself pretty lady and don’t forget that you’re alot stronger than you give yourself credit for.

]]> By: Zephyr http://www.thepillowbook.com/2007/08/14/im-so-not-a-fighter-just-a-lover/#comment-2118 Zephyr Wed, 15 Aug 2007 21:26:24 +0000 http://www.thepillowbook.com/?p=278#comment-2118 *sigh* This is why I am glad RnG is a small, non-profit event. We don't get much of this shit. Even so, a couple of people have tried to malign Colin's reputation lately, and I am pissed the fuck off. *sigh* This is why I am glad RnG is a small, non-profit event. We don’t get much of this shit. Even so, a couple of people have tried to malign Colin’s reputation lately, and I am pissed the fuck off.

]]> By: Yvonne http://www.thepillowbook.com/2007/08/14/im-so-not-a-fighter-just-a-lover/#comment-2115 Yvonne Wed, 15 Aug 2007 04:34:03 +0000 http://www.thepillowbook.com/?p=278#comment-2115 "I need to stop letting the negativity in the community engage me. Easier said than done." So true...so true. I'm sorry you are feeling the sting of being a public person in this community. It hurts to know that people have been misled about you or have been told that you did something you did not. When you stand up to defend yourself, you get flamed. If you say nothing, you are guilty. The negative people in this community are why I have stepped down from being a public figure, at least in the BDSM community. I don't know why it is so ugly there in particular. Perhaps it's where the smallest people put on the biggest britches. Regardless, I used to be light positive person and I have been turned bitter and resentful. I wish to get back to being the person I liked myself as. I'm not sure what you will decide to do. I hope you choose just for you and your family, leaving all the other opinions behind. Perhaps stay out of the public arena outside of advertising and promotion, or find someone to do that promotion for you, so that you can stay out of the lion's den. I have so valued your words in the past few weeks, but you have also learned, unfortunately, that the nail that sticks up, gets hammered down. This nail...is getting out. I wish you well. :) “I need to stop letting the negativity in the community engage me. Easier said than done.”

So true…so true. I’m sorry you are feeling the sting of being a public person in this community. It hurts to know that people have been misled about you or have been told that you did something you did not. When you stand up to defend yourself, you get flamed. If you say nothing, you are guilty.

The negative people in this community are why I have stepped down from being a public figure, at least in the BDSM community. I don’t know why it is so ugly there in particular. Perhaps it’s where the smallest people put on the biggest britches. Regardless, I used to be light positive person and I have been turned bitter and resentful. I wish to get back to being the person I liked myself as.

I’m not sure what you will decide to do. I hope you choose just for you and your family, leaving all the other opinions behind. Perhaps stay out of the public arena outside of advertising and promotion, or find someone to do that promotion for you, so that you can stay out of the lion’s den.

I have so valued your words in the past few weeks, but you have also learned, unfortunately, that the nail that sticks up, gets hammered down.
This nail…is getting out.

I wish you well. :)

]]> By: Peter Throckmorton http://www.thepillowbook.com/2007/08/14/im-so-not-a-fighter-just-a-lover/#comment-2113 Peter Throckmorton Wed, 15 Aug 2007 04:04:32 +0000 http://www.thepillowbook.com/?p=278#comment-2113 You two should do what is best for you. Your friends will love you no matter what. You two should do what is best for you. Your friends will love you no matter what.

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